Martha Beck wrote the article "Take a Flying Leap" where she discussed fear based decisions. The decision to eat veggies to avoid cancer; to keep a weed free yard so our neighbors won't complain; to throw a huge party for a child so they will like us and think we are awesome; put make-up on so we won't scare the ladies at church with our wrinkles. You know all those things we do becasue we are afraid of rejection, failure, poverty, or looking stupid. Have you ever wondered why you never feel joyous and free and extatic about those decisions? Martha explains,
"Fear based decisions lead to hollow victories at best and endless regret at worst. Only love based decisions create lasting happiness." [emphesis added]
Beck explains that love based decisions are the choices you would make if you had no fear; people wouldn't laugh at you, kids wouldn't complain; husband would applaud; you would celebrate.
That got me thinking. What would I do differently if I didn't factor in the judgments of others? Would I eat chocolate everyday and not worry about my waistline? Would I grind wheat and make homemade bread if I knew my kids wouldn't complain? What would my life be like if I lived in love instead of fear?
How would your life change?
Martha Beck envisioned a change and leaped. She bought a house in California's mountains and flies where she needs for her work. She took a leap of faith and made a choice despite her fears. Beck says, "leaps of faith are frightening even when the choice to make them is based on love."
My ahahh moment? If I feed and nourish my body becasue I love and cherish it, I feel better! I see more success. Beck explained,
"love based decisions have one more quality their fear based counterparts lack: They are enduring."If I'm looking to change my life-- create a real lifestyle change, it will only come with love. So go on. Do your hair and make up because you love the way you look. Eat healthfully becasue your body is a treasured posession. Give up weeding if you just don't care. Live your life with love--
Take A Leap!
You can find Martha Beck's book Finding Your Way in A New World here.
Martha Beck's article "Take a Flying Leap" was featured in O The Oprah Magazine, January 2013; pp43-49